Date Night Feels
For those
that know the feels of traveling hours to see your significant other
whose attached to DOD you know those days seem to take forever to get
here, the miles are painfully long and the minutes go by in seconds.
We've been
doing this for a while now and one thing we've discovered is that no
matter what the last night before one of us leaves our date night
meal is always by ourselves. No take out, no restaurants, and no
crowds, just the two of us. Concentrated time for us to spend in the
kitchen cooking a meal together, having deep conversations and no
baby talk....meaning no talking about the kids or kid related
issues.....Its in the constitution. Relationships are about work and
this is well some what different. Not only do we have to make things
work when we are together, we have to function while we are apart.
And being in this position we've learned to get to the point rather
quickly. We treasure every minute and take in all the feels.
Tonight was
no different than any other “last night” together. Deep
conversations while cooking dinner, making plans for future events.
I've never know this kind of relationship. Partners are supposed to
be equals. Share in the things we like together and support each
other in the endeavors that are different. For most of my adult life
I've always been somebody's “maid”. Just a person to replace
their mother. Then I met Jim and it was an eye opening experience.
When he asked for my opinion over something simple and wanted me to
express my opinion, I was like wait what? So to be able to talk with
your spouse about anything and everything has been the best
experience. I can finally have a conversation with someone who
actually wants to hear about what I have to say. One thing we've
learned during this time period of having to go back and forth is
that time spent together is precious. Date night should most
definitely be done at home more often than not, both spouses cook,
both spouses clean. While yes its nice to get gussied up and go out
to a restaurant, date night out does not give you that privacy to build your relationship. But no matter what date night has to happen. A fitness person I follow on the IG thing does the rule of 2's and I rather like it. Every 2 weeks dinner date, every 2 months a day trip alone, every 2 years a week long getaway. Now I know the every 2 years thing maybe a little difficult for some. The concept is just to have an extended period of time more than a few hours to invest in your marriage.
So tonight
while we had one of our amazing conversations we made: garlic and
herb roasted prime rib, air fried asparagus, and salted potatoes.
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Prime Rib Dinner
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